Wednesday, July 8, 2015

I Left Social Media To Save My Creativity

Social media actually affected my creative life.  Hm.

I'm not saying "HEY YOU SOCIAL MEDIA SUCKS."  I'd never say that.  So what do I mean?

In economics, you learn about opportunity cost.  What are you giving up to do a different task?  Opportunity cost for going to the movies is the cost of the movie, cost of snacks, time you could have spent doing homework and the A+ you could have had.  What I've realized in the past month or so is that I've had a lot in my time away from social media.  It was a sudden change, I couldn't be around social media for 10 hours a day.  I did NOT have time for it and what happened in the mean time was really surprising to me.

Technically, you don't HAVE to do anything.  As a blogger, you don't HAVE to do social media.  I think.

I was always horrible at being the cool new image.  I wear new trends horribly because I simply do not look myself.  I think that's why I'm so uncomfortable with social media, then.  Because I'm not it right now.  I thought I had to do it.  But you don't.  Awesome.  I found a lot of happiness without it.  I am not comparing my numbers and pictures to others.  It's relinquishing.  It allows me to be good at what I want to be good at.  I feel like I am doing things that enrich me in the way that I want to be enriched. 

Honestly, my art inspiration was absolutely gone.

I could not find any inspiration.  I couldn't paint.  I couldn't journal.  I couldn't write.  It was hard for me to write my recent post because there is so much behind the behind-the-scenes of blogging.  Planning, scheduling social media, stuff like that.  Totally doable!  Of course.  But I was giving up a skill/hobby that I've loved for so long.  It was taking away part of what made me creative - what I'm about.  So personally?  No more social media for me.  (Meaning twitter and instagram.)

I'm here to inspire.  *shrugs*

Monday, July 6, 2015

Fingerpainting + Color + What I've Been Up To

Well not why not.  I have no brushes.

I haven't had brushes for like 2 years.

I've set up my paint on the table next to my desk.  It's all laid out so that I basically have to use it.  I can't ignore it now.  Now I can just spit paint on whatever paper I have go for it.  So I'm getting back to my roots, finally.  I used to paint with brushes and I was not bad.  But despite having a full set of brushes, I hated cleaning them and always went back to just using my fingers.  So I did this.  Yay colors.

Anyway.  What's up?  I've been doing stuff.

I've honestly written this post 3 times.  Because like what is the proper way to come back from a blogger break.  There is no proper way.  So hey.  What's up?  The only way I can explain why I took a break is in the classic I-took-a-break phrase: I was living life.  And I've been exhausted because new responsibilities.  Life happens.  Currently into the whole slow living vibe.  So my blog will be reflective of that!  I've made some changes.  Will talk about them in the next post. 

Still on a creative journey. 

Wednesday, June 10, 2015

The Only Blogger Tip You'll Ever Need


Surprise: beginning bloggers are looking for actual help.

I've had some time to think things over.

We need to communicate to succeed!  There are some things bloggers will not talk about!  Some things we shouldn't and some things are personal, of course.  But blogging is very competitive.

Tip: Get over the idea that someone is going to take your crown.

It's an insecurity that I had when growing my blog.  I didn't reply to comment because I thought I was giving them something for their blog.  LIKE WHAT?  I mean, I don't reply to comments often now because I'm super busy.  I was also afraid of someone else figuring out how I got followers and then using it to build their follower count.  Keep in mind, I have NO STRATEGY TO GET FOLLOWERS.  BUT I WAS STILL AFRAID.

Was I the only one who had this fear that someone else would take my spot?  If blogging were actually a competition 2 years ago, my spot had already been taken.  Because I had 0 followers.  What did I have to worry about?  Why was I so afraid of giving other people advice or help?  It's crazy.

I hate reading redundant blogger tip posts.  Pet peeve.

I remember needing help when I started blogging and no one would help me.  I probably read hundreds of blogger tip posts and yes most of them gave me the TOP 5 TIPS TO GET FOLLOWERS ON BLOGLOVIN (and stuff like that), but they actually gave me no content.  And no help.  You know exactly what I'm talking about.  And I'm not insulting you if you give out these blogger tips on your own blog, I mean you are sharing some of your knowledge!  But can't we give more of our own success stories to empower others?

I challenge you.  Make a post with the headline revolving around blogger tips and give something that you've never told.

Do you understand what I'm saying or like am I just too observant
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Monday, June 8, 2015

Why I Took A Blog Break

Hi.  It's been a while.  A week.

So not THAT long.  But still it's a bit of a break for me.  I was off of blogging, I was off of twitter AND I was off of instagram.  I honestly was not planning it at all.  Hi DIFTIfam, I missed you!

I did not plan a blogging break.  It just worked that way.

Life is not restricted to the hundreds of schedules we place before what feels right.  There's work, school, weather predictions, sales, projects, blogging, twitter chats, instagram themed hashtags and taco tuesday.  Well maybe taco tuesday is not a burden.  But you get what I'm saying.  That is A LOT to put before doing what your body is telling you to reach out for, rather than constantly pushing yourself.

What happened when May Makers ended.

So after #MayMakers, I just felt so happy with what we created and I wanted to jump off of that into some more amazing content!  But another opportunity outside blogging challenged me to stop.  And lounge in the pool of OUR success and beauty of last month.  I stopped and well... relaxed.  But like I said, I really wanted to jump into some amazing content.  I have a list of things to write about, I promise.  But with more stuff on my plate, I could not give the as much quality as we all deserve into my writing!  So I made that decision.  For once in two years, I took a short blogging break.

The sign of a chance to respect and reflect.

So if you follow the news, you may have heard about the heart wrenching post by Sheryl Sandberg - Facebook COO - speaking about the recent loss of her husband.  You can tell how genuine it is and I'd be lying if I said I did not cry more that once while reading it.  She gives meaning to what she's going through and says, "I have learned gratitude. Real gratitude for the things I took for granted before—like life. As heartbroken as I am, I look at my children each day and rejoice that they are alive. I appreciate every smile, every hug. I no longer take each day for granted."  So I did just that and not only appreciated the people in my life but the world around me.

Stepping outside of my online mind brought back laughter that a youtube video could never create.  Surprising.
You'll be seeing more of my past art soon!  This one above is a favorite of mine.  :)

What have you been up to!?  Fill me in!
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Sunday, June 7, 2015

It's been what. A week? | DIFTI's Week

blog hiatus much?

So I've been off the grid for a while, haven't I?  I took a mini blog break.  I'll explain why tomorrow!  But today, let's catch up.  Shall we?  I'm very very happy.  Let me tell you THAT.  I smile and laugh a lot!  It's insane how much I laugh.  In my current life, I'm able to work and laugh and have free time.  Isn't that perfect?

1.  I love the Riley and Stephen Curry video so much.  She's SOO CUTE AND FUNNY.
2.  This coffee picture makes me laugh a little bit.  Very pretty.
3.  I found this very sweet and helpful pep talk for June on tumblr.  Love.
4.  Is this picture a photo or a painting?  Let me know what you think, I love it.
5.  Another gorgeous picture from the studyblr community, which I wrote about 2 weeks ago!
6.  I liked this Les Miserables quote too.  I've never seen Les Miserables.

Happy Sunday!  Hit me on the social media to catch up :)
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Monday, June 1, 2015

The First Time | #MayMakers

Posted on Monday because it's extra special.

Giving it to you straight, my weekdays have more blog traffic than weekends.  Normally I'll post #MayMakers on Sunday.  But y'all have been going all out and just surprising me SO MUCH!  I'm like yeah I'm giving them a high-traffic day.  I am so thankful and grateful for this month.  I'll be posting a reaction + thanks post on Wednesday.  Be there!  This week so many people tried things for the first time, I'm so happy to be a part of it.

1. Rosie, from Damzel In The Dress, tried out sewing for #MayMakers and made this gorgeous outfit for an Indian wedding!  It looks so GORGEOUS.  It's amazing. 
2. Kathy, from Lace and Whimsy, made this gorgeous pin up inspired garland and posted it on instagram!  I love this so much, it came out so clean and you totally get the vibe.  I could totally see you intertwining it with fairy lights for a kitchen.
3. Sophie Jones, from That's Groovy, absolutely blew me out of the water.  She started her first altered art book.  Like AHHH?  I fangirled and texted people because the idea that I spread art journalling is crazy.  Also, if you're looking for AMAZING outfit posts... she's your girl.  My favorite fashion blogger and I have a ton of respect for her work.
4. Ella, from Ella Was Here, took up painting again and shared her thoughts about it!  I am so grateful that I got to be a part of your return to painting.  I used to LOVE painting.  Loved it.  But I got discouraged and I want to take it up again!  Alas, I have no brushes.
5. With Tolly, from Tolly Dolly Posh, it has all come full circle!  I featured her in the first roundup for her creative blog series and for the last roundup she shared 15 NEW SCRAPBOOK PAGES.  That's crazy.
6. Meg, from A Twist Of, cannot be left out of the last #MayMakers.  She shared with us a collage of herself modeling.  One thing I love about her submissions is that they're always self portraits.  They really dive into what it means to be in her mind.

7.  Amber, from Amber Love Blog, shared her playlist to feel creative!  Thanks so much Amber, I'll definitely be listening to this when I'm doing blog work. :)
8.  Areeba, another girl who cannot be left out of the LAST MayMakers roundup from I Have A Messy Bun, had a ton of fun with her Lady Gaga inspired makeup post!
9. Lastly, I challenged Meg to make a video involving shadows and not just a picture.  She legit had this video out in hours.  So quick.  Y'all cranked out the quality work this week!

No questions.  Just check out their stuff. :)

Friday, May 29, 2015

Not Creative? This #Girlboss Thought So Too | #MayMakers

 How to be creative?  Just say you are.

It's not unusual to think this, I promise you.

I never even thought of the word, "creative", until people started to ask me how I did things like paint on posters for school projects or blend paint together.  I thought I was just doing random things.  (I still think that sometimes.)  They would say, "How do you do that?  I'm just not creative.  That's so cool."  This stunned me.  I was just doing random things.  That's when it hit me.  People just aren't doing random things and are thinking that "creative" has to be a certain way - like most school stereotypes. 

I was happy to find that Uli, from my favorite blog Found Some Paper, has a similar start to creative blogging.

If you follow me on twitter or have read a bunch of my posts, you'll see that I always mention her.  She told me a bit about her and it just proved to me that yup she is creative goals.  "Officially, I’m a creative in my free time. In “real” life I work as an account manager in an advertising agency. I love interacting with people and I’m quite good in communicating with different groups of people. In my spare time I also read a lot of books about psychology and sociology which I think helps me to understand different characters and the humankind in general. Back to creativity, I think that psychology helps in this area as well. Being creative can be quite liberating and can help you overcome personal issues."  I know you'll find her words as inspiring as I find them.  She spouted literal gold in our interview.

If you say you're not creative, you're wrong.  You're not looking at yourself.

Creativity is not always a red-headed girl wearing circle glasses in a beret and a black turtleneck.  (I thought that when I was little because that's how they portrayed artists in cartoons.)  Creativity is anything you do to develop an idea.  ANYTHING.  So chances are, you already are creative - may it be with food, decorating your room, a school project or in a sport you play. "I was one of those people who thought she is not creative. At one point though I thought why do I think that? I’ve always tried to give a personal touch to presents and there are a few frames hanging in my parents’ house. When did I start thinking I’m not creative? Then I realised I’m not the only one who has these thoughts and that woke me up. I want to be a creative advocate / ambassador - for myself and for others. 

Help end your insecurity by allowing yourself to be empowered by others.

Thing is, even if you're the best painter in town or never touched paint, you should always allow yourself to be socially creative.  Let your work be vulnerable to the opinion of others.  Find clubs and allow yourself to be inspired and see that you are just as creative as them.  You may be in awe of their work, but they will be in awe of yours.  "Only a week ago I attended a so called Creative Retreat organised by a friend and this was an amazing experience. We were 16 people (strangers) and spent the whole weekend on a farm doing creative things. We organised workshops, discussions, morning raves, and cooking sessions. I liked the spirit of these creative souls and felt truly inspired by everyone. After the weekend we realised we just created a valuable creative community where we support each others’ dreams. I can only recommend everyone to meet creative people and spend some time with them. You’ll realise that you’re as creative to them as they’re to you."

Uli's Recommendations

  • Make It Happen: A Podcast For Bloggers & Creatives by Jen Carrington
  • Books
    • GO DO! by Jeremy Harbour
    • A Whole New Mind by Daniel H. Pink
    • #Girlboss by Sophia Amoruso
Are you new to the creative world or are you a longtime creator?